{"id":1129,"date":"2016-02-01T07:10:07","date_gmt":"2016-02-01T12:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=1129"},"modified":"2016-02-01T12:01:34","modified_gmt":"2016-02-01T17:01:34","slug":"forget","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/forget\/","title":{"rendered":"I Will Never Forget"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1130 size-large\" title=\"I Will Never Forget\" src=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost-775x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, Photoshops multiple frames around a portrait of her daughter Marika Warden who died.\" width=\"625\" height=\"826\" srcset=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost-775x1024.jpg 775w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost-227x300.jpg 227w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost-768x1014.jpg 768w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost-624x824.jpg 624w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/DontForgetMpost.jpg 1211w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 625px) 100vw, 625px\" \/>My dead daughter\u2019s pictures pop up on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/RobinBotieWriter\" target=\"_blank\">Facebook<\/a>, and each time I see one, my eyes pop out of my head. I\u2019ve been planting her image all over online. And every time someone shares or comments on what I\u2019ve posted, the response and the article with its photo come back to my email box. You wouldn\u2019t think something like this could bring so much joy. But it does, to me.<\/p>\n<p>The joy doesn\u2019t come just because I know Marika loved collecting friends and putting her pictures on Facebook. It\u2019s not because I\u2019ve learned to like doing what she did. And it\u2019s not to show her off or to grab your sympathies.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOne of the most scary things for us as bereaved parents is that our dead child will be forgotten.\u201d These are not my words. One of my Facebook friends wrote this in response to my article, <a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/swallowed-daughter\/\" target=\"_blank\">How I Swallowed my Daughter<\/a>. This is my truth. I need to feel Marika won\u2019t be lost and forgotten. I\u2019m framing her face and pasting her all over the Internet so she\u2019ll be remembered. \u201cThere\u2019s that girl again,\u201d you will say. Even for the short time it takes to look at her, or share her image, she will have been seen. And maybe when you remember she no longer walks the earth, perhaps you will cherish your own time here and your own loved ones, more.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why, when I\u2019m not looking for joy and finding life after loss, you can find me posting photos of my daughter on Facebook. Before friends and strangers, I am promising Marika and myself, that she will not be forgotten.<\/p>\n<p>Thank you for sharing and celebrating her with me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My dead daughter&rsquo;s pictures pop up on Facebook, and each time I see one, my eyes pop out of my head. I&rsquo;ve been planting her image all over online. And every time someone shares or comments on what I&rsquo;ve posted, the response and the article with its photo come back to my email box. You [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[702],"tags":[739,258,744,169,743,740,106,742,741],"class_list":["post-1129","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-702","tag-always-remember","tag-bereaved-mother","tag-bereaved-parents-blog","tag-finding-joy","tag-i-promise-to-remember","tag-i-will-never-forget-you","tag-life-after-loss","tag-sharing-on-facebook","tag-what-bereaved-parents-fear"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1129","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1129"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1129\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1129"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1129"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1129"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}