{"id":1177,"date":"2016-04-04T08:08:15","date_gmt":"2016-04-04T12:08:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=1177"},"modified":"2016-04-04T11:13:01","modified_gmt":"2016-04-04T15:13:01","slug":"remember","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/remember\/","title":{"rendered":"Remember Always"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1178 size-large\" title=\"Remember Always\" src=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost-640x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, Photoshops her father who taught her how to watch her money.\" width=\"625\" height=\"1000\" srcset=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost-640x1024.jpg 640w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost-188x300.jpg 188w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost-768x1229.jpg 768w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost-624x998.jpg 624w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/BookmarksPost.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 625px) 100vw, 625px\" \/>My father taught me to sweat a hundred hours before spending a hundred dollars. He died six years ago. But he still shows up for every move I make involving money. He is also in my thoughts when I\u2019m near an ocean, or when I hear an airplane flying overhead.<\/p>\n<p>When I see yellow leaves on the ground, I\u2019m reminded of my friend <a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/preparing\/\" target=\"_blank\">Andrea<\/a> who walked with me in a forest of golden maples dropping leaves like tears, in the October before she died.<\/p>\n<p>Rainbow cookies. The sight of them carries me back to my grandmother Omi Rosie.<\/p>\n<p>And when there\u2019s a moon, I stop to remember <a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/marika-warden-sings-over-rainbow\/\" target=\"_blank\">my daughter<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI see the moon. The moon sees me. The moon sees the one I long to see,\u201d I\u2019d sung as a girl and later as a mother holding my young Marika. Our planet has one moon. I\u2019ve been singing to it all my life. I can\u2019t always see it but it is out there. Anyone can see the moon, just not all the time. Our ancestors watched that same moon. Our children\u2019s children will look up to the same sky. And wherever Marika is, or is not, if she looks for light in the dark night, she will see the moon. So I keep singing to it. And remembering her.<\/p>\n<p>We have the power to link our loved ones to anything. They are never gone as long as we hold them in our hearts and remember the gifts, miniscule or mighty, they gave us. Worried about forgetting loved ones, I assigned each a \u201cbookmark\u201d or two, special meaningful images like yellow leaves, airplanes, rainbow cookies, or the moon, to forever after be my signal to remember them. In this way, I have regular, but unplanned, appointments with my loved ones who died.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>How do you remember the ones you love and thought you lost?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My father taught me to sweat a hundred hours before spending a hundred dollars. He died six years ago. But he still shows up for every move I make involving money. He is also in my thoughts when I&rsquo;m near an ocean, or when I hear an airplane flying overhead. 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