{"id":1337,"date":"2016-10-03T06:57:46","date_gmt":"2016-10-03T10:57:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=1337"},"modified":"2016-10-03T12:11:22","modified_gmt":"2016-10-03T16:11:22","slug":"black-hole","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/black-hole\/","title":{"rendered":"A Black Hole"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"RobinA black hole can happen when a star dies. It can happen when someone you love dies. And when artists or writers run out of inspiration, losing the ability to create new work, they may wail, \u201cI\u2019m lost in a black hole.\u201d<\/p>\n

In a black hole<\/a>, the pull of gravity is so strong that nothing can escape it, not even light. Powerful tidal forces exert pressure that compresses matter, making it plunge at the speed of light, stretching it out lengthwise and squashing it sideways, tearing it to pieces, smashing, disintegrating, instantly incinerating and obliterating it to ashes.<\/p>\n

I remember the early days after I lost my daughter. I remember the crushing feeling, the slow leaking of my energy, gravity ripping me apart. The hopelessness. My insides were imploding. I was alone. Aching. Trapped. Lost in a deep, dark, endless emptiness.<\/p>\n

Black holes come in different sizes, from micro to supermassive, from death and grieving to creative block.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you feel you are trapped in a black hole, don\u2019t give up. There is a way out,\u201d says world-renowned theoretical physicist Stephen Hawking<\/a>, who has spent a lifetime studying black holes. But even he questions what kind of shape you, or any matter that gets sucked into a black hole, might be in upon escaping. Hawking says whatever gets freed from the hole is \u201cfor all practical purposes … useless.\u201d Still, somehow, my hope survived my black hole. A battered ounce of hope is enough to fuel one forward.<\/p>\n

Last week I started off my \u201cnew season\u201d of photographic images. Taking cautious baby steps, keeping it simple, I photographed all sorts of orifices with my newly repaired, cleaned camera. Openings in foliage, depressions in trees, eyes of fall flowers… I made a circle. A square. And the beginnings of a plan to bring joy and color back into my life:<\/p>\n

Start with a black hole. Put it in a box, to contain the chaos that might grow from it. Hug the negative space around it. Skirt the edges of its perimeter, aware it could suck in and swallow whatever approaches its point of no return. Surround it. Expand it. Drag it around and poke at it. Keep peeking into it to look for light. Learn to love the black hole that periodically pulls. And find new ways to fill it.<\/p>\n

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What can you do with a black hole? How can you fill it? Should black holes just be avoided?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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