{"id":1689,"date":"2017-07-10T07:15:19","date_gmt":"2017-07-10T11:15:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=1689"},"modified":"2017-07-10T15:37:18","modified_gmt":"2017-07-10T19:37:18","slug":"a-last-time-for-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/a-last-time-for-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"A Last Time for Everything"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Why isn\u2019t there some sort of class or required reading that warns you, early on, about the nature of life? About loving. And losing. Longing. Living anyway. Something should teach us to pay attention because there\u2019s going to be an end one day: A last kiss. Last words spoken. A last time you\u2019re all together. A smile that disappears off the planet. A last night before the life you believed was yours gets devoured by the first morning of a completely different existence. All the precious bits and pieces of who you are, and what you thought you owned and controlled, are subject to change at any moment. Nobody warns you about this. Then one day you get clobbered. There ought to be something that gently whacks you over the head, an alert that everything, all of it, is only temporary.<\/span><\/p>\n

My sister\u2019s birthday brought my Mom and me, both of my sisters, a long-lost-then-found-again childhood friend, and another dear friend-of-the-birthday-girl together this weekend. We drank lots of wine and ditched our diets in celebration. And I kept wondering how many birthdays, how many summers, how much more of the good stuff could we possibly have coming to us?<\/span><\/p>\n

This summer I\u2019ve been showing up at my mother\u2019s house almost every weekend. There, I can be a daughter again, a daughter helping out and being doted on by her mom. That was a role I needed to escape decades ago. But now I\u2019m drawn back to it. Someday, I know, I will no longer be able to slip into my daughterliness any time I want.<\/span><\/p>\n

For the birthday weekend, I was once again part of a set of three daughters living under one roof. We whispered and plotted out of earshot of our Mom, pretending we were kids once more like before colleges, husbands, and babies scattered us off into our different lives. I can\u2019t count on always having sisters getting together for birthdays.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s great to be alive; it sucks that we\u2019re alive for such a brief while. I go back and forth between being grateful and miserable about this, and continue to party like there\u2019ll always be a next time. So cheers to the birthday girl, to Mom, to sisters and friends. Let\u2019s toast to life! It\u2019s beautiful. Sad. And gone before you get to know it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does anyone else go around marking in your mind all the sweet moments, thinking, this may be the last time?<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Why isn’t there some sort of class or required reading that warns you, early on, about the nature of life? About loving. And losing. Longing. Living anyway. Something should teach us to pay attention because there’s going to be an end one day: A last kiss. Last words spoken. A last time you’re all together. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1062],"tags":[1255,1259,1258,1257,1256,299,1236],"class_list":["post-1689","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-1062","tag-a-last-time-for-everything","tag-a-toast-to-life","tag-being-a-daughter","tag-celebrate-the-good-times","tag-life-changes","tag-life-is-short","tag-nature-of-life"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1689","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1689"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1689\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1689"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1689"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1689"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}