{"id":2151,"date":"2018-06-18T07:15:01","date_gmt":"2018-06-18T11:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=2151"},"modified":"2018-06-18T11:11:19","modified_gmt":"2018-06-18T15:11:19","slug":"we-need-to-take-care-of-each-other","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/we-need-to-take-care-of-each-other\/","title":{"rendered":"We Need to Take Care of Each Other"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-large wp-image-2152\" title=\"Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, photoshops a dead butterfly into a perfect setting, in considering the life of beloved chef and author Anthony Bourdain of CNN's show Parts Unknown.\" src=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost-682x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, photoshops a dead butterfly into a perfect setting, in considering the life of beloved chef and author Anthony Bourdain of CNN's show Parts Unknown.\" width=\"625\" height=\"938\" data-popupalt-original-title=\"null\" srcset=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost-682x1024.jpg 682w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost-624x936.jpg 624w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/ButterflyStrugglePost.jpg 1066w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 625px) 100vw, 625px\" \/><\/a>Leaving the house one morning last week, I noticed a bright Monarch butterfly flying around the spirea bush outside my front door. I stood a moment watching it flutter over the tiny nectar-rich blooms, the most perfect setting a butterfly could want. Then I left in a hurry. Later that day, I noticed the butterfly was still there. It was flapping its wings only occasionally and seemed to be settling in for the night. Strange how it was still there, I thought. Maybe it was laying eggs, or maybe it was a sign from my daughter who died. I went about my long list of things to do before bed and forgot about it. The next day I found the butterfly. Still there. Only now it was lifeless.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\">When I tried to gently remove the poor thing from its perch, I found one of its antennae was wound around a small branch. The butterfly had gotten itself stuck. And now it was dead. All that time, I never noticed it had been struggling. If only I had reached out my hand when I first saw the butterfly, I could have shooed it away and maybe it would still be alive. If I had spent more time, I might have seen it was in trouble. I could have helped.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\">That was the same week <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Anthony_Bourdain\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Anthony Bourdain<\/a> took his life. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cnn.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">CNN<\/a>, the TV station that keeps me company as I photoshop, was broadcasting information for the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">National Suicide Prevention Hotline<\/a>. In between they were playing clips from the celebrity chef\/author\u2019s popular world-travel documentary, Parts Unknown. It was hard to believe. The man who had everything. A perfect life. Now over. Where did he get stuck?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\">It made me realize we need to take care of each other better. We need to slow down and pay attention. Love, listen, and reach out more. Sometimes I can be oblivious to the inner workings of my fellow humans and other creatures around me. But these are the ones I share this time on earth with. We are all related. And each one&#8217;s well-being matters. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\"><em>How do you help a friend who\u2019s stuck in a bad place? And what can I do with this dead butterfly, too beautiful to throw away?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving the house one morning last week, I noticed a bright Monarch butterfly flying around the spirea bush outside my front door. I stood a moment watching it flutter over the tiny nectar-rich blooms, the most perfect setting a butterfly could want. Then I left in a hurry. 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