{"id":2367,"date":"2019-01-28T07:11:09","date_gmt":"2019-01-28T12:11:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=2367"},"modified":"2019-01-28T12:06:00","modified_gmt":"2019-01-28T17:06:00","slug":"afraid-of-dying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/afraid-of-dying\/","title":{"rendered":"Afraid of Dying"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/a>You\u2019re afraid of dying, you say, afraid of dying<\/a> alone mostly. I wish I could tell you how this thing called death works and what dying means. Or where we end up in the end. I wish I could alleviate your fears, and tell you the best comes after life, that there will be music and bright lights and long-lost loved ones welcoming you. But I\u2019m still trying to convince myself there\u2019s more than nothingness, that after we die we reach some eternal heavenly state of consciousness, if not an actual heavenly place.<\/span><\/p>\n

All I know is that for eons of time, trillions and gazillions of other beings before us have made this journey of conception, life, and then death. That this is part of a great cycle. And that maybe, possibly, death is not the last stage.<\/span><\/p>\n

What if we think of this life-death cycle as a beach? Over the course of your lifetime you crept along the sandy shore, and then toddled, walked, and eventually waded into the water where you swam and dove through the waves, never noticing the tide gently dragging you out ever farther. And now every breath takes so much energy and struggling. Yet you keep swimming until there is nothing but ocean and sky, and soon you become part of them both. It\u2019s like when you were born. You had no choice in being born, no control. You yielded to the forces pulling you into the then unknown world. Now it is time once more to be carried along into another great unknown.<\/span><\/p>\n

You will not be alone at the end. There are those who will be honored to sit vigil<\/a> with you and make you comfortable at this sacred time. Let\u2019s call Hospice<\/a>. Allow people in. I will come myself when I can, wearing my red-beaded necklace, the one like yours, because greeting death with red beads seems both gutsy and appropriate. I\u2019ll hold your hands and listen to your memories, or to your breathing. Maybe I\u2019ll rub your feet.<\/span><\/p>\n

And finally, when you are gone to the great wherever, I will always love you and remember you. Whenever I wear those beads I\u2019ll think of you laughing boldly in a bevy of friends, immaculately bedecked with makeup and perfectly matched jewels.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What can you do to assuage a loved one\u2019s fear of dying?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You’re afraid of dying, you say, afraid of dying alone mostly. I wish I could tell you how this thing called death works and what dying means. Or where we end up in the end. I wish I could alleviate your fears, and tell you the best comes after life, that there will be music […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1758],"tags":[1788,1789,1023,779,866,857,1792,1790,1791,798],"class_list":["post-2367","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-1758","tag-afraid-of-dying","tag-after-life","tag-caregiving","tag-circle-of-life","tag-death-and-dying","tag-end-of-life","tag-hospice","tag-life-death-cycle","tag-the-great-unknown","tag-what-happens-when-you-die"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2367","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2367"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2367\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2367"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2367"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2367"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}