{"id":2594,"date":"2020-01-13T07:34:48","date_gmt":"2020-01-13T12:34:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=2594"},"modified":"2020-01-13T11:40:08","modified_gmt":"2020-01-13T16:40:08","slug":"how-do-you-define-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/how-do-you-define-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"How do You Define Yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2597 size-large\" title=\"How do You Define Yourself? - Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, defines herself as a bereaved mother, forever.\" src=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-710x1024.jpg\" alt=\"How do You Define Yourself? - Robin Botie of Ithaca, New York, defines herself as a bereaved mother, forever.\" width=\"625\" height=\"901\" data-popupalt-original-title=\"null\" srcset=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-710x1024.jpg 710w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-208x300.jpg 208w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-768x1107.jpg 768w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-1066x1536.jpg 1066w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright-624x899.jpg 624w, https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/DefiningPostbright.jpg 1124w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 625px) 100vw, 625px\" \/><\/a>A Bereaved Mother. Is that how you\u2019re going to define yourself forever? A friend asked me this. And for a long while the question bothered me. Mostly because it seemed to suggest I\u2019d lost my self as well as my daughter. But A Bereaved Mother is not all of who I am. When my daughter died I lost my old life, and in many ways I changed. Yet I am still me. And if you ask me who or what that is, you will get only an abbreviated account of where I stand at that one moment in time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\">And yes, being a mother is forever. I am a proud mother of an amazing live grown son and of a beloved daughter who died. This will always be towards the beginning of the complex outline of how I define myself.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A Bereaved Mother. Is that how you&rsquo;re going to define yourself forever? A friend asked me this. And for a long while the question bothered me. Mostly because it seemed to suggest I&rsquo;d lost my self as well as my daughter. But A Bereaved Mother is not all of who I am. When my daughter [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1998],"tags":[2009,258,494,2005,2010,2006,2008,890,1516,2007],"class_list":["post-2594","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-1998","tag-being-a-mother-is-forever","tag-bereaved-mother","tag-child-loss","tag-defining-yourself","tag-how-do-you-define-yourself","tag-i-have-changed","tag-lost-my-old-life","tag-motherhood","tag-redefining-your-life","tag-still-me"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2594","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2594"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2594\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2594"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2594"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2594"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}