{"id":362,"date":"2013-11-25T13:18:49","date_gmt":"2013-11-25T13:18:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=362"},"modified":"2014-01-22T11:08:40","modified_gmt":"2014-01-22T11:08:40","slug":"healing-from-loss-love-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/healing-from-loss-love-again\/","title":{"rendered":"Healing from Loss: Love Again?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/BOYFRIEND.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-large wp-image-363 alignleft\" title=\"Robin Botie being hugged by an ancient statue from Mesopotamia or Sumeria\" alt=\"Robin Botie being hugged at the Metropolitan Museum of Art by an ancient statue from Mesopotamia or Sumeria or -\" src=\"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/BOYFRIEND-769x1024.jpg\" width=\"625\" height=\"832\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I met him at the <a href=\"http:\/\/metmuseum.org\" target=\"_blank\">Metropolitan<\/a>. It was love at first sight. But I didn\u2019t get his name or number.<\/p>\n<p>Am I ready to start a new relationship? Probably not since I\u2019m asking the question. Sometimes I think I will never allow myself to come close to another human being again. Because nothing lasts forever and I don\u2019t know how much loss I can take.<\/p>\n<p>Shortly after my daughter died I found a small gold ring in her room. A ring, an unbroken circle, symbolizes infinity and undying love in many cultures. But this ring was one of those adjustable bands where the ends don\u2019t meet. As soon as I put it on I knew it would snag on something someday and fall off. Nevertheless, I decided to wear Marika\u2019s ring. That it would be okay when I lost it. I would not regret not tucking it away someplace safe.<\/p>\n<p>Can I treat people this way? Like they are not forever?<\/p>\n<p>How differently would we all live if we had expiration dates stamped on us like cartons of milk? What is safe? When is ready?<\/p>\n<p>I promised myself I would learn from Marika. She lived like the lights could go out at any time, like she had only an hour left. She said, \u201cMom, get a life.\u201d So maybe \u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I met him at the Metropolitan. It was love at first sight. But I didn&rsquo;t get his name or number. Am I ready to start a new relationship? Probably not since I&rsquo;m asking the question. Sometimes I think I will never allow myself to come close to another human being again. Because nothing lasts forever [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-362","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-25"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/362","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=362"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/362\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=362"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=362"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=362"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}