{"id":669,"date":"2014-11-10T09:04:12","date_gmt":"2014-11-10T14:04:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=669"},"modified":"2019-09-30T10:23:15","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T14:23:15","slug":"ice-cream-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/ice-cream-soul\/","title":{"rendered":"Ice Cream for the Soul"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Ice<\/a>\u201cThey\u2019re closer than you think,\u201d I said, talking about loved ones who died. I dug into my cup of coffee ice cream. Seated around a small table at Ithaca\u2019s Purity Ice Cream Shop<\/a> with an old friend and two new friends, I could not remember being there in the past 3\u00bd years since my daughter died. Marika and I came here often: mocha chip and coffee ice creams. Chocolate sauce or hot fudge. No cherry, no whip.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf a child loses both parents (s)he is called an orphan. Widows and widowers are people who lost a spouse. But what is a word for a parent who lost a child<\/a>?\u201d I asked.
\n\u201cDamaged,\u201d said one of my new friends. We could laugh about this; each one of us knew loss too well.
\n\u201cAnd what is a word that means \u2018a dear one who died\u2019?\u201d It was the question that had haunted me all week.<\/p>\n

I was about to make an ice cream toast to our lost loved ones when the server sent out a fifth dessert.
\n\u201cIt was on your order. Mocha chip with sauce.\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I decided to plant a picture of my dead daughter at the table.<\/p>\n

What do you call your beloved who died?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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