{"id":825,"date":"2015-05-04T07:34:32","date_gmt":"2015-05-04T11:34:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=825"},"modified":"2015-05-05T10:33:37","modified_gmt":"2015-05-05T14:33:37","slug":"dealing-mothers-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/dealing-mothers-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Mother’s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Robin<\/a><\/em>Just so you know: I\u2019m not even going to try to write coherently today. It\u2019s my daughter\u2019s birthday. In a week it will be Mother\u2019s Day. And all I can think, every minute of the day and night now, is how I wish I could get back the joy of those days when Marika was alive.<\/p>\n

She loved singing, being near water, Australia, sushi, and carrot cake. And the dog I inherited. So I\u2019m singing to the full moon, hiking with the dog, raking algae from the pond, and eating sushi and cake. All the things I gifted her, the pedicures, the shopping sprees, dinners out with friends \u2026 I am now gifting myself.<\/p>\n

A card she gave me on May 9, 2010 says, \u201cMom happy mother\u2019s day! IOU one lunch out @ your choice of restaurant! Always, Marika.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s because she wrote, \u201cAlways.\u201d She drew a heart around the middle of the word. That\u2019s why, four years after her death and for as long as I can chew, I will eat lunch out on Mother\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n

Maybe I\u2019ll even buy flowers.<\/p>\n

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Taking bets: Will my son call me for Mother\u2019s Day or not? Will I remember to phone my own mother before midnight on Sunday?\u00a0How will you deal with Mother’s Day?<\/em><\/p>\n

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Just so you know: I’m not even going to try to write coherently today. It’s my daughter’s birthday. In a week it will be Mother’s Day. And all I can think, every minute of the day and night now, is how I wish I could get back the joy of those days when Marika was […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[374],"tags":[258,494,493,492,491],"class_list":["post-825","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-374","tag-bereaved-mother","tag-child-loss","tag-childs-birthday-after-death","tag-dealing-with-mothers-day","tag-mothers-day-after-losing-a-child"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/825","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=825"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/825\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=825"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=825"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=825"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}