{"id":830,"date":"2015-05-11T07:32:00","date_gmt":"2015-05-11T11:32:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/?p=830"},"modified":"2020-02-11T07:00:12","modified_gmt":"2020-02-11T12:00:12","slug":"staying-afloat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/robinbotie.com\/blog\/staying-afloat\/","title":{"rendered":"Staying Afloat"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Robin<\/a><\/em>\"Staying<\/a><\/em>\u201cDo you remember this?\u201d I asked, holding up the ancient rake. \u201cI got my rake, my Wellingtons and work gloves. What am I forgetting?\u201d The boots and gloves were oversized. My shorts were tight and tiny. No one would be stopping by so my hair was tied up haphazardly.
\n\u201cDon\u2019t look at me like that. I have to rake the algae from the pond.\u201d I took a fast drink of water and bent down for a kiss.
\n\u201cFirst we rake. Okay, I rake. Then I pull the cattails up by the roots. Then I get to carry the piles of raked and pulled stuff from the pond banks. Then I pour the blue dye off all the edges to discourage algae growth. And then \u2013 I don\u2019t know why I do this every year. I should be spending this time with you.\u201d<\/p>\n

This is the conversation I had with the dog. She watched me from inside the sliding glass door as I reached and pulled and piled algae and old pondweed. For seven days I raked the pond in one or two-hour sessions until dripping sweat stung my eyes and my back ached.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo you swim in your pond?\u201d People always ask me that. The truth is I can\u2019t remember when I last swam in the pond. My daughter was the one who used the pond. She and her friends splashed around on neon-pink and orange poly-foam noodles, shrieking with laughter. \u201cMom, look. Watch me. See me.\u201d I kept the pond clean and beautiful for her. Now that she\u2019s gone, I\u2019m not sure why I bother.<\/p>\n

To keep a pond cleared for swimming is backbreaking work but sometimes hard physical labor is what one needs to stay afloat in grief or depression. Some people pray. Some meditate<\/a>. Some go for walks in nature or drive fast and far. All of these I have done. There are many ways to deal with loss<\/a> but the thing I come back to each spring is the raking.<\/p>\n

I could see my inherited dog waiting and watching my every move from inside. Tearing off my boots, my socks, the tight shorts, and my father\u2019s watch, I scanned the shallows. There was no longer any easy access to the pond. I sat down on its grassy edge. Now or never, I thought, and scooted off into the cool water. I splashed. I swam out through warm and cold spots. I swam in a circle. And hollered out to the dog, \u201cHey, Suki. I\u2019m swimming. See me?\u201d<\/p>\n

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In times of trouble what do you do to stay afloat?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Do you remember this?” I asked, holding up the ancient rake. “I got my rake, my Wellingtons and work gloves. What am I forgetting?” The boots and gloves were oversized. My shorts were tight and tiny. No one would be stopping by so my hair was tied up haphazardly. “Don’t look at me like that. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[374],"tags":[102,500,496,497,495,498],"class_list":["post-830","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-374","tag-dealing-with-loss","tag-living-with-grief","tag-pond-maintenance","tag-raking-algae-from-pond","tag-staying-afloat","tag-talking-to-the-dog"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t